What Makes Online Dating
So Different?
We, human beings
have been in this world for so many thousands of
years. And since the beginning people have been
choosing partners. Cultures across the world are
very different and we can come across so many
different ways in which people choose their life
mates.
But the concept
of finding a life partner with the help of the
Internet is a fairly recent concept when
compared with the history of mankind as such. Of
course the Internet and computers have
influenced man’s life so much that it is no
surprise that in the matters of finding a
suitable partner too, the Internet has made its
presence felt.
Online dating
is, to put is very simply or flatly, finding a
partner with the help of a machine namely the
computer via the Internet. That itself makes the
idea and the process a very novel one indeed,
Hundreds of happy people across the globe have
been successful in finding suitable partners by
the means of online dating.
But to be frank
with you, a lot of not-so-lucky persons have
been goofed and jilted by the same process. So
in order to make sure that you find a place in
the first list let us go into the details of
Online dating.
The Magic of the
Internet
Everything that
applies to the Internet, applies to Online
dating as well. The Internet as we know allows
for unlimited possibilities in communication,
and it is this feature that has proved to be at
the same time the biggest boon, as well as bane
for Online dating.
People can start
from scratch and get to know everything about
each other before the actual meeting takes
place. Tastes and preferences, likes and
dislikes, interests and obsessions can be
discussed on a one to one basis so that when the
meeting actually takes place these two people
are not in the least strangers to each other.
Wonderful, isn’t it?
But at the same
time this possibility for unlimited
communication leaves a lot of space for guile as
well. The human race is endowed with a
remarkable ability to use, misuse and abuse the
same thing. And naturally, Online dating too has
been and is still being used for vile purposes.
The person who
is misusing this facility may either be a
practical joker or may be someone with more
devious intentions who is out to get some
victims. It is because of this reason that a
little bit of homework is good before you
actually hit the road.
But you do not
have to worry, the home work has already been
painstakingly done for you and all you have to
do is run your eyes along the following lines
and you will be all set to strike gold.
How Did Online
Dating Become So Popular?
The reason is
pretty simple. It is very much the same
reason that the Internet itself became so
popular. The Internet opens up a whole new world
of communication and contact. And the reasons
for this are given below.
Speed
Try to picture what used to happen earlier in
the days when people had to depend on the good
ol’ postal system. During those days, a person
had to wait for one or two days for a letter to
get across to a person who lived in the same
state itself. The second person in turn would
take one or two days to respond and this letter
would take on or two days to get back to the
first person.
So in effect, a single correspondence would
stretch over a week. But now it’s a totally
different story. The time taken for the first
letter and the response has been brought to an
amazing 2 minutes!
Waiting may make the heart grow fonder but
e-mail makes two people get close faster!
Privacy
The Internet provides for absolute privacy too.
One can carry out communication with another
person in the absolute privacy of one’s bedroom
or bath room or wherever one chooses to be.
There is no fear of eavesdropping (ugh) or over
hearing (shudder!) thanks to e-mail and chat
facilities.
Options and Opportunities
The Internet provides for other options like
voice chat or video conferencing and stops short
only of the physical touch. But then who would
want to start a relationship by touching right
away?
You can see a person, talk to a person, and
listen to the person’s voice, can you think of a
better way to start a date?
Economy
All this and more it is possible thanks to the
Internet and the best part is that all this
comes to you for peanuts. All you need is a PC
(who doesn’t have one?) and an Internet
Connection (how can anybody live without one?)
and you are all set. The only thing more you
could ask for is a step-by-step guide to find
your dream date…well here it is!
So what are we waiting for?
Be Clear About What
You Want
We all know that
man is a social being. However man is also a
lonely being. (And when we say man, we mean
women too). Man longs for company.
Company not just
from friends and the family, but from that
special person with whom he or she can share
those sweet nothings, those simple pleasures and
pains, someone with whom he or she can build a
whole new life, someone with whom he or she can
raise a family of his or her own.
Now this is a
fundamental need of man: to find a life mate.
And the most popular method used for this is
dating. When we talk about dating in the very
finest sense of the word, please understand that
dating is not to be viewed as a precursor for
sleeping together. It is much more than that. It
is the first step towards choosing a life
partner and online dating has made the whole
process a lot simpler now.
Marriage Versus A
Casual Relationship
Now what you do
and what you want is entirely your business. I
don’t want to sound nosey but I would like to
draw a fine line between the kind of dating that
is involved in these two quests.
Of course we are
all grown up and so let us act like grown ups.
Obviously in a casual relationship we are
looking for fun. And mind you, fun can have a
lot of connotations. So here the object of one’s
desire will obviously be a person who is not
inclined towards a serious relationship.
If both parties
are of the same view then it is well and good
because they understand each other perfectly and
do not expect much from such a relationship.
This leaves no room for heartbreak.
It is when one
party is in for something more serious and the
other party is into sheer frivolousness that the
problems start. So you should be absolutely
clear about what you are looking for from the
start, and you should make your intentions very
clear to the other person.
At the same time
you should have no doubts about the intentions
of the other person as well. Remember, even if
it is a casual relationship, there should be
mutual understanding at least about the nature
of the relationship.
Of course, there
is yet another possibility where a casual
relationship can blossom into something more
serious. But, again in such cases it is your
instincts that can help you identify what is
good and what is bad.
No matter how
strong a person is, anyone can be taken for a
ride or be taken for granted. Being jilted is
never a nice experience. So those of you who are
going in for a casual relationship, for heavens
sake, be on your guard! Marriage is altogether a
different story but we will deal with that
later.
Dating Comes From a
Fundamental Need
Let’s face it,
of course sex is important, but sex is by
far NOT the most important reason for
dating.
Important!
Maybe during the age of thoughtless youth, when
new hormones are being pumped in and out, sex is
on every one’s mind. But as one matures (mind
you that does not mean growing old and gray) sex
takes the back seat and mutual support, likes
and dislikes, cooperation, caring and sharing
come to the forefront. We start thinking about
building up a world of our own and we need
someone to share it with, and not just someone
to sleep with.
Sex is a
fundamental need of every human being. We all
have it in us to give and receive physical
pleasure. But when you sit and think about it
for a minute, you can see that this urge is
actually the result of another urge.
There is a more
primary urge in every human being to breed and
produce offspring, and it is this urge that
gives rise to such a powerful sexual desire. But
whatever be the urge, the most dignified means
to satisfy it is dating.
Nobody, not one
of us, is complete without a partner; and it is
to satisfy this need that people date. Because
of this, the rest of this manual will be
dedicated not to finding the right sex partner,
but to finding the right life partner.
Online Dating Is
Here To Stay
Let’s accept the
fact that dating couldn’t really get better.
Online dating is THE real thing. Let’s
compare it to the old system of evening balls or
social gatherings. Imagine you are this big
gathering where there are a lot of men and women
looking out for suitable partners.
Suppose you bump
into one or two people with whom you seem to
strike an immediate rapport. You are then able
to take this person out onto a balcony with just
the moon to keep an eye on you.
You get to talk
to this person for hours and hours; just talk
and nothing else. You get to discuss likes and
dislikes and finally when it is time to part you
leave with a promise to meet on a following day
at an equally enjoyable spot. These talks go on
for days and weeks and finally you decide that
this indeed is the THE person with whom you want
to spend the rest of your life with.
Then of course
you start meeting in more open places, you hold
hands and even kiss. You begin to go out for
lunch and dinner and spend even more intimate
time together. When the moment is right and your
decision is made, it then becomes time for you
to say, “I do.”
Sigh!
It sounds like a nice fairy tale, doesn’t it?
Well it needn’t
be. It could be your own love story because the
concept of online dating is just what has been
described above. If you click the right buttons
everything could work out fine for you and we
have evidence to prove it. Just take a look at
the figures given below and you can behold for
yourself what a universal phenomenon online
dating has already become.
As I mentioned
earlier, one of the best things about online
dating is that it affords a lot of privacy. You
can chat for hours, video conference, or do
whatever it is you care to do without arousing
the interest of others or attracting the wrong
kind of attention. All you need is a computer
and Internet access everything becomes as
discreet as can be. But along with that, may I
add that we need a little bit of common sense as
well or else we might find ourselves within the
clutches of many lurid monsters lurking out
there.
Another good
thing about online dating is that it saves a lot
of money which otherwise you would have had to
splurge each time you took someone out on a
date. It is because of these reasons and many
more personal reasons that thousands of people
find online dating to be a great convenience.
How To Get The Most
Out Of Online Dating
Many people who
decide to give online dating a try often end up
with their hair singed and fingers burnt.
The reason we
decided to put together such a manual is that
online dating is not as simple as it looks. You
need to know how to go about it in order to get
the best out of it. Most people do not like to
take chances and when it comes to finding a life
partner people do not want to take chances at
all.
But you can
relax for through this manual we will be dealing
with all the do’s and the don’ts and so the
whole process will be quite easy and enjoyable
to you. This manual will provide you with
step-by-step instructions on how to being online
dating.
We have no
doubts about the decision-making abilities of
our readers and so we do not propose to give a
lot of advice on the issue. Our purpose is
simply to provide a couple of guidelines which
we hope our readers will find valuable as they
proceed in the attempt to find the perfect
partner.
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